Sometimes, we become so used to things not working out for us that we get in our own way. If you’ve wondered why you just can’t seem to make progress on your health goals, there are some ways to stop getting in the way of your own health.
Understand that often, people who sabotage their health, are driven by unconscious reasons, but they justify it with mindful means.
It’s the “I meant well, but it didn’t work out syndrome.” We screw up our health and other parts of our lives without even realizing it.
If you’re too hard on yourself and tend to get in the way of your own progress, whether in health or any other area of your life, you can stop today, and start treating yourself how you deserve to be treated.
Here’s how to stop getting in the way of your own health:
1. Be objective.
- Take a step back and look at what’s happening in your life from a stranger’s point of view. You may find it helpful to write it down in a journal.
2. Embrace imperfections.
- Getting feedback and critique is probably the last thing you want, but it’s a great opportunity to see things from a different perspective and realize what you’re doing wrong.
- Very often, you’ll find that the feedback was actually helpful, but only if you don’t take it too personally, or overthink everything.
3. Don’t be gullible.
- The grass that seems much greener on the other side of the fence got that way because of the hard work that went into it.
- Whatever we envision success to be, whether it’s losing 20 pounds or being filthy rich, our thinking process doesn’t take into account all the hard work that goes into it.
4. Be realistic about your health goals.
- Break them down into mini-goals. They can be daily or weekly – it’s up to you.
- Write down every step you need to take in order to get there, and don’t leave out the times when you fail to reach one of them.
- Trust in the process, and more importantly, trust in yourself.
- Stop getting in the way of your own health!
5. Stop being selfish.
- Some people think (or tell themselves) that when they sabotage their health, they’re doing it “for the good of others” around them.
For example, a mother may feel that she’s putting her kids’ well-being before her own when she doesn’t take the time to eat right or exercise.
Or a father may think that working all the time and not taking the time to take care of his health, is for the sake of his family.
The truth is, these behaviors are the exact definition of being selfish.
6. Trust your perspective.
As we grow, we’re bombarded with comments about ourselves, and it’s the negative ones that stick with us the most.
The problem is that it can be difficult to break free from these comments. They turn into tangible beasts that haunt every single decision we make.
- We step into a trap. People’s comments can be ordinary, run-of-the-mill comments made without giving it a second thought.
AAH…but to us, those casual comments can dominate our waking hours and dictate our life decisions.
It’s important to give these comments a break and be stronger than the effect they have on you so you can live life to the fullest.
It’s no big deal if you feel uncomfortable in a certain situation, or if you’re not completely certain what to do.
- Take a deep breath, realize that every single person gets the same heart-gripping fear every once in awhile and take the plunge – what’s the worst that can happen? I’ll tell you.
It’s one of two things:
- You’ll either fail miserably, which will be somewhat embarrassing but won’t be the end of the world. You’ll stand back up, take another deep breath, learn from your mistakes and try again.
- Or, you’ll succeed and you’ll be proud of your accomplishments, and move on to the next task with courage.
8. Be brave.
Bolstering your confidence takes practice and time. Take the time to research and ask questions about what you’re working to accomplish so that you’re prepared and confident.
9. Give your low self-esteem a knockout punch in the very first round. Memorize this and repeat after me:
When you don’t trust in your own abilities as you should, it prevents you from achieving the most you can.
People with low self-esteem always have ready on-hand excuses for why they’re not good enough or why they can’t do this or that.
The fear of failure is normal, we all experience it.
However, it’s the “not even trying” part that makes you miss out on what could be the best moments of your life.
10. Take the time to put yourself before others.
Let me say that again: Take-The-Time-To-Put-Yourself-Before-Others.
I can hear your arguments all the way over here. But, I promise you, the decision to put yourself first will make you a healthier, more balanced person.
And, in that balance, you’ll quickly discover that you have more time and energy to do the things you have to do in your life, whether it’s working towards improved health, for work or for your family.